I am so excited for this weekend. As I write this I am sitting in my seat at the I Can Do It 2013 speakers series being held at the Queen Elizabeth Theater in Vancouver.
The week after Emily embarked on the Ketogenic Diet, I had a day to myself and spent it on the beach watching my friends play volleyball followed by an enjoyable evening of good food and wine. To be honest, I felt guilty about leaving Mike at home to “do the food” and was worried I shouldn’t be enjoying myself.
Upon speaking with one of my friends there she asked lots and lots of questions about Emily’s epilepsy and the new diet we had embarked on. I am happy to have have spoken with her that evening since she took the chance to recommend a book she thought might be very useful for me and Emily during this journey. The author is an amazing lady by the name of Louise Hay and the book she recommended was You Can Heal Your Life. Reading that book made a profound impact on the journey of navigating our new life with a child with a chronic illness. I became almost obsessed with learning about Louise and was thrilled when I found out her speakers series was coming to Vancouver.
One of the profound implications I realized upon reading her book, almost immediately, was that Emily’s epilepsy has created a condition for our family to heal our life. This journey wasn’t just about getting her medication or a diet that would stop her seizures. It wasn’t just about going to doctor appointments and getting tests. What I found was true for our family, was that it was about looking at every aspect of our life and being able to be honest about what was working and what wasn’t working; it was about breaking our lives open and being willing to find the cracks in the foundation and figuring out how to mend them; or better yet, to build a new foundation that wouldn’t have cracks.
There are many things I have uncovered in what has been a short journey so far. I know there are many more things that are still waiting to be uncovered. I’m going to share with you one of the many, yet probably the most important discovery I have yet made.
Slow down!!! For most of my life, and for all of Emily’s short little life, I have been busy rushing; rushing to the next big thing that I placed undue importance on. Rushing to grow up, to move out, to finish university, to climb the corporate ladder, to make more money to provide all the things rushed families provide their kids in lieu of the one thing they really need: love…spelt by a child as T I M E.
Now I’m not saying (100%) that Emily’s epilepsy was caused because we had a rushed life and not enough time. What I am saying though, is that her epilepsy became the “voice” I heard asking me, pleading with me and then pretty much YELLING at me to slow down, enjoy time and give my child the most precious gift of love there is to give; my time.
In closing, I want to share with you something that Dr Wayne Dyer said today…”true nobility is not in being better than everyone else, or having more than everyone else, it’s in being better than you were yesterday”. I can truly say, that I am fortunate and lucky that I am better today than I was yesterday.